Who Should Make The First Move?

45 posts  ·  created 6yr ago by yasoshlasuma  ·  last post 3yr ago
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yasoshlasuma
6yr ago
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permalink I see alot of posts on here by girls who question whether a guy they have a crush on likes them back, and some of the answers have been
why dont you ask him out? or why dont u ask him if he feels the same?
and most of the time, these girls do absolutely nothing about it and the guy ends up in a relationship with some one else.
Im not saying only girls do this, I have seen guys do it too.
What I wanna know is why people do this? Why cant they just confess and let it all out so that the other person knows. I understand that there is a fear of rejection and all that stuff, but I also know that it is harder to see them with some one else.
I recently got some good advice from some one. He told me that if I really like some one, I should tell them, because they arent gonna wait around forever, even of they do feel the same. Eventually, they will end up with some one else.
So, for the question, who should make the first move, I think both genders should. In this day and age, it doesn’t matter who makes the first move, just as long as they end up happy. So, what is your answer to this question and why?

yohmax
6yr ago
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permalink i think, depends.... if you really like the other people... just don't wait, tell what you feel, is the same if you are girl or guy, all we are people, so, if you really like her/him tell!

bakaxhui
6yr ago
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permalink hmm i think both gender should make the first move. Sometimes the girl and sometimes the boy. It must be fair to make the relationship works if not there will just only be fights and break ups all over again. If you really like the person, you should muster up your courage and go for it. Who knows you might be successful with the confession.

Drey
6yr ago
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permalink It's clear!you're right bakaxhui!

AraKun
6yr ago
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permalink It doesnt matter who takes the first step.
I know a few girls who are saying that if a girl confeses first, then it means that the guy is some coward or i dont know who. I definitely dont agree on that.

Arashiis1
6yr ago
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permalink I think it's hard for people, regardless of their gender, to make the first move in fear of rejection but I agree that either gender should. If you really like someone then why not?

Reighle13
6yr ago
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permalink in my country...the boy should make the first move...

ferdrago
6yr ago
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permalink sometimes the boy make the first move.. but sometimes the girl could make the first move ^^

pokemonXmaster
6yr ago
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permalink I think I saw a statistic somewhere saying something like 80% of guys like girls to make the first move.
I've been recently seeing this guy randomly on the university campus. We always gave each other flirty smiles. I finally got the courage to introduce myself one day, and as it turned out, he was just too shy to tell me he thought I was cute! We've had a couple dates since then :)
If you're interest is peaked, at least have the courage to at least introduce yourself. Signals and flirting is another issue you though I think. That junk gets confusing!

yasoshlasuma
6yr ago
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permalink Flirting is a huge issue in this because it can send out mixed signals... And just becoz u think some one is flirting does not necessarily mean they r, so we may like some one and think they r interested in us too, which can cause problems later on.

milktealover89
6yr ago
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permalink I don't think it necessarily matters who makes the first move since the end result(s) would be the same (which would be either the feeling being mutual or being rejected), though some girls might prefer guys making the first move since it's seen as more "traditional" I guess.

Personally, I made the first move because I knew I liked the guy and I knew he liked me (though he made it pretty obvious) and I didn't want to wait around for him to ask me out/tell me that he liked me so I just did it. He was kinda taken aback since he was planning on asking me out, but he was just waiting for the right "moment". Haha, he sometimes reminds me how I ruined his plans XD

GraciiL
6yr ago
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permalink if you like a person enough and your confident enough ask or i also think the issue is that most people dont think there good enough some of my friends actually rank themselves and others and so if a guy walks past and they think his cute or they have a crush on someone at school they automatically think oh his and 8 I could never get someone like that, and so they constantly degrade themselve so i honestly think its more to do with how as girls we really need to stop 'ranking' each and instead encourage by saying honeslty what we think like well his good looking but he may be an ass haha ect. ect. i wish girls would be more honest with each other and not put so much pressure on each other like WTH is with the ranking sorry it gets me really mad cause girls should be supporting each other not ruining maybe then girls would fell more confident in asking and i think the same for the boys (talked to my bro bout it)

HeroFan4Life
6yr ago
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permalink I think, the guy should sometimes make the first move and sometimes the girl should make the first move. Balance it out. ^^

darksama
6yr ago
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permalink i'll give a simple answer as i'm searching for the right answer too.. it should be depends on the situations i guess on which gender should make a move first. but well if both waiting then.. hurmm.. 0 result will be found lol

breedlom
6yr ago
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permalink In the past, it has been socially expected that the guy make the first move, and so that is what the modern expectation is. But I think that if you really like someone, the pressure of public expectations can be thrown out the window. Socially accepted has never really been in my vocabulary, so I don't really understand why some of my friends think it is "Socially unacceptable" for a girl to make the first move. 2 of my 3 relationships came from the girl making the first move, not including my current one(where again, she made the first move).

HBpencil1
6yr ago
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permalink I think guys should make the first move but i also think girls should as well! :)

Stella95
6yr ago
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permalink both genders can make the first move of they like someone :) You will always have some shy girls who don't dare it and for those a boy who dares it, would be nice. But there are also boys who are shy and they would like a girl to make the first move, so really. Wether you're a boy or a girl, if you like someone, just make the move if you dare :D

lovevisualkei
6yr ago
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permalink it doesnt matter. I HATE the culture here that the dude always has to do everything first. i've NEVER made the first move ( and i've also never dated oddly enough) but I REFUSE to stoop to cultural pressure. I think that if you like someone u should take the initiative regardless of what gender you are. Ladies, be proactive and ask people you like!!!

hikarukimura25
6yr ago
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permalink I always make the first move! Y a Y !

But in a friendly way~ I just to make friends. ♥

Qu4Lia
6yr ago
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permalink hmm... either one :)

JpopKpopLover94
6yr ago
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permalink the boy :)

luciful
6yr ago
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permalink depends if you're sure he like you too you can do it, if not you can be rejected and than it's better to leave him to make the first move

JangNaeTi3
5yr ago
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permalink I definitely recommend the boys. Only because its their part to play.
Girls, ... Dont make the first move, unless you really want to?? i dont know.

nimiraz
5yr ago
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permalink Anyone can make the first move. I know it is traditionally the male who is expected to make a move...but sometimes a lady just has to take the reins! Really whoever wants to should make a move.

1crazy4drama
5yr ago
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permalink I go with the boy to make the first move

PRISCILA222
5yr ago
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permalink If you are shure about what you want why not make the first move
but if you are more traditional let him make the first move

1crazy4drama
5yr ago
29,315 jpops
permalink Either person

Lackyanna
5yr ago
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permalink I made the first move on a guy once and later he said that he liked it, cause he was to shy to do it. But it was so scary that I never did it again and just waited for the guy to make the move:-)

Nightgaze
5yr ago
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permalink Personally I think it's stupid when girls say the guy has to make the first move! What if they both like each other and the guy is too shy to do anything? In that case if the girl wants to make the first move she should do it! I mean women want equality right? Then they should put in equal work in starting a relationship!

stefyap
5yr ago
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GetYourCrayon
4yr ago
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permalink it doesn't matter

Mitsubachi
4yr ago
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permalink for me the guy will take the first move ...

BabyDollQt
4yr ago
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permalink I think it's up to both to do something.

kanami1414
4yr ago
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permalink It doesn't matter who~

Zeina
4yr ago
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permalink I don't think it matters.
They either like you back or they don't.
The thing about crushes is that sometimes you get crushed, but it's better than living with that "what-if" hanging over your head, you know?

That said, I don't think I ever will hahahaha

KpopKdrama
4yr ago
125 jpops
permalink for me in general if a girl likes a guy,
she'll confess but is too scared,
cause he might not feel the same way,
thats why he didn't confess,
because he didn't like her,
or it could be the other way around ...
but thats just me

KumikoMichiyo
4yr ago
11,927 jpops
permalink It doesn't matter at all who makes the first move~
People always say "oh, it has to be the boy" but what if the boy's too shy? If the girl never made a move then they could end up never being together

JYChii
4yr ago
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permalink It always depends on the situation.

Nightgaze
4yr ago
377,126 jpops
permalink I don't care what gender you are if you like someone you make the first move!

weebllikespie
4yr ago
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permalink Everyone always says the guy has to make the first move but I think that's such a load of baloney~ if you like someone, let them know you're interested. Both people in the relationship has to put in the effort to make it work.

ThatElfWithTheGlasses
4yr ago
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permalink I honestly don't think it matters. Personally, I think assertiveness can be attractive. For some reason, girls aren't supposed to ask the guys out, buuuuut if you like someone, then go for it! If they decide to be a jerk about it, then they're not right for you anyway, so consider yourself lucky for dodging a bullet. If they are nicer and just say no, then hey, at least you know and you can move on sooner rather than later. :)

ensorcelledAubade
4yr ago
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permalink I really wouldn't say that it matters, i've been asked out twice and i've asked somebody twice haha v.v

YukiAzamaki
4yr ago
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permalink I have always been the one to take the attitude, but i wouldn't mind otherwise

eyramhaye
3yr ago
10,657 jpops
permalink Either one of them. If you really like or are interested in the guy or girl, then go ahead and make the first move. You'll never know until you try, after all.

tegoshei143
3yr ago
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permalink Either is okay... :)


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