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  • Love Tips With Roses

    Posted on 27 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 38 views · 3 comments · 1 likes

    Romantic Things That You Can Do With Roses For That Special Man Or Woman In Your Life

    Rose petals increase the romance of any intimate situation. This classic romantic gesture is a simple, but unforgettable one.

    # You can put some rose petals in each champagne glass, and use the rose petals to decorate cakes and love-desserts.

    # Line a delicate trail of rose petals along the bed and place one sweet love letter atop a mound of the glorious petals.

    # You can place rose petals in your p...

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    Romantic Things That You Can Do With Roses For That Special Man Or Woman In Your Life

    Rose petals increase the romance of any intimate situation. This classic romantic gesture is a simple, but unforgettable one.

    # You can put some rose petals in each champagne glass, and use the rose petals to decorate cakes and love-desserts.

    # Line a delicate trail of rose petals along the bed and place one sweet love letter atop a mound of the glorious petals.

    # You can place rose petals in your panties just before getting intimate.

    # Or simply cover the sexiest parts of your body with rose petals (for women: put them on your nipples, navel, pubic area).

    # You may put rose petals in briefcases, purses, or in a book your sweetheart is reading.

    # You can use rose petals in the bath, or in a bowl of water.

    # You can present your sweetie with a beautiful bouquet of roses and in the bouquet put one rose saying "I love you"

    # You can make a trail of roses or rose petals leading to the bedroom door or to the dinning room for a romantic dinner.

    # Write out a message or a symbol with rose petals.

    # You may also try building up the mood by surrounding your lover with rose petals while he or she is sleeping.

    # Put rose petals inside balloons and decorate the bedroom with those cute balloons!

    # Take a heart-shaped balloon, slightly wet the inside of the balloon, put petals inside and the petals will stick to the sides – it looks romantic and unbelievably beautiful!

    # You may place rose petals in a gift box!

    # Scatter rose petals on all over bed.

    # Place some nice rose petals throughout her/his car!

    # When you pick up your partner have a single rose waiting on the passenger seat for him/her. He/she will be pleasantly surprised but the real surprise is yet to come… Have two dozen roses waiting at home.

    # Write a love letter to your partner and put it into an attractive glass bottle. Fill the tub and scent it with your favorite aromatic bath oil(s). Scatter in a few rose petals and put the bottle in the tub. Let your partner discover it for themselves when they get into the tub.

    # Buy several different colored artificial roses. On each rose write what each color represents. These roses will last forever and your partner when they look at them will always be pleasantly reminded of the first time they receive them.

    # Present your partner with 10 red roses and 2 white roses. Write in the card something along the lines of "You will never be alone"

    # Run a warm bath for your love, complete with romantic music and candles. Finish the setting by sprinkling beautiful rose petals in the bathtub. They will be gently floating on top when your sweetie steps in to luxuriate.

    # A short while before you know that your sweetheart will climb into bed, take a few handfuls of silky petals, pull back the sheets and toss them lavishly into the bed. Put the covers back, making the bed up to look as usual. What a sweet surprise when your darling pulls the covers back to slide into bed!

    # Put a dozen rose petals on the pull shade in your sweetheart's car. When they pull the shade down to protect themselves from the sun or pull out an item kept there, they will be showered with the soft, silky petals.

    # The next time you give your sweetheart a massage, add rose petals for a luxurious, aromatic ambiance. Depending on the surface, you can place bunches of petals in shallow bowls or baskets around the massage area, or simply spread them all over the surface.

    # Two weeks before valentine's day, send your partner a rose for every day leading up to the big day. · close

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    • Foolproof Tips for Finding a Date

      Posted on 25 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 24 views · 1 comments · 0 likes

      In today's fast-paced lifestyle, meeting people can be a challenge. Finding a date can be even more difficult. If you haven't been lucky in the arena of dating, it is about time that you do something about it. Do not just sit down and let the world pass you by. Read on to these tips that will help snatch a date with the guy/girl of your dreams.

      Go out

      You can't expect to find a date while inside your home sulking the whole day. The best way for you to meet people is to go ou...

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      In today's fast-paced lifestyle, meeting people can be a challenge. Finding a date can be even more difficult. If you haven't been lucky in the arena of dating, it is about time that you do something about it. Do not just sit down and let the world pass you by. Read on to these tips that will help snatch a date with the guy/girl of your dreams.

      Go out

      You can't expect to find a date while inside your home sulking the whole day. The best way for you to meet people is to go out. Even though it seems tempting for you to watch the entire season of your favorite show the entire afternoon, do yourself a favor and get off that couch. Attend parties, watch movies or concerts, participate in charitable causes, travel to nearby states, and so on. Just make sure that you move around a lot. The more you go out, the better chances for you to meet other people, which would also increase your chances for finding a date.

      Surf the web

      The Internet might just be the best thing that has ever happened to introverts who desire to go on a date. Online dating services have proliferated like mushrooms. In fact, these sites are not anymore used by the desperate ones. Even good-looking people with great personalities now use the Internet to find the person they want to go out with. This is good news for you because you no longer have to fear about meeting a loser or a pervert as long as you make use of dating services that are reputable and credible. See to it that you present yourself in the best light without seeming as if you paid an advertising agency to write your dating profile. Be funny, confident, and natural.

      Look your best

      People always talk about the importance of inner beauty. We all know that. But we cannot also undermine physical beauty, as this is the primary factor that attracts people. Don’t expect to find a date if you look shabby or if you look like you haven't taken a bath in years. You do not have to undergo a plastic surgery just to make yourself beautiful. It's enough that you look your best, you smell nice, and most important of all, you exude with confidence.

      Be interesting and interested

      While looks can attract people, it's a personality that would make them want to stick with you. Even if you are a Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie look-a-like, if your personality will bore your date to death then you cannot expect to have more of these things coming for you. Being interesting is the key. Have a few funny anecdotes ready to tell at the right time. Be in the know on trends, movies, music, news, and any topic that is of popular interest. Go out of your comfort zone and travel. Traveling especially to exotic destinations will equip you with valuable insights that would inevitably make you a more interesting person. Of course, you cannot just focus on yourself at all times. When talking to people, be sure to ask open-ended questions and listen to the person when he/she is talking. You should not just be interesting, you should also be interested.

      Finding a date may not always be easy but once you get the hang of things, you will realize that it is easier than you actually thought. · close

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      • Dating Tips

        Posted on 24 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 42 views · 0 comments · 1 likes

        Your crush has finally asked you out and you're going on a date. Or you have been dating a lot of people, but it just doesn't seem to be going anywhere. Dating can be tricky ground for a lot of people. That's why there are a plethora of dating tips out their to help you be more confident and to set your best foot forward.

        Here are some of the best dating tips you should follow:

        Always look your best. You'll want to present your best self to your date, so take the time t...

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        Your crush has finally asked you out and you're going on a date. Or you have been dating a lot of people, but it just doesn't seem to be going anywhere. Dating can be tricky ground for a lot of people. That's why there are a plethora of dating tips out their to help you be more confident and to set your best foot forward.

        Here are some of the best dating tips you should follow:

        Always look your best. You'll want to present your best self to your date, so take the time to choose the clothes that suit you. Put on makeup and spray on that sweet-smelling perfume or splash on that manly aftershave. First impressions last and you'll want to make sure that you'll make a good one. If you look like a mess, your date will feel that you're not interested in them.

        Showing up late is a turn-off. Your date has gone to the trouble to set a time. They'll have made reservations or bought tickets to see a movie that starts at a specific time. Give your date the courtesy of showing up on time.

        Have fun! Find something about your date to enjoy. After all, you most probably wouldn't be out with someone if you didn't share a common interest, so you'll be sure to be doing something that you like. If you have fun, most likely your date will have fun too, and you'll end up going on a successful date.

        Do look for a positive trait or characteristic in your date to compliment. Most people go to a lot of trouble to get ready for a date. They also spend a lot of time and effort into planning a date. You will boost their ego by complimenting their appearance. They will also be flattered that you appreciate all the effort it took to set up the date.

        Show some interest in your date and be an interesting date. Keep the conversation rolling by asking questions and sharing stories. Listen to your date when they tell you what books they like to read, what kind of music they listen to, and what they like to do. Share quirky stories about yourself that show off your interests and personality. You'll be bound to get to know each other better and appreciate each other's interests.

        Be honest. If you don't dig your date, tactfully decline when they ask you out on a second date. You won't be doing them or yourself any favors by stringing them along. You'll also be wasting time if you keep going out with a person whom you're not into.

        Don’t cave in to peer pressure. Listen to your friends' advice, but don't let them dictate whom you should date. You should go out with the people whom you’re attracted to, not the people whom your friends think will suit you. At the end of the day, you are the one who will be in a relationship – not your friends.

        Even if your date doesn't go as planned, stay positive. You might not want to date a certain person again, but you might want to stay friends with them. Even if the path to finding your true love is rocky, you'll be sure to get to know good people along the way.

        Follow these dating tips and your dates are sure to improve. · close

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        • Love and Jealousy

          Posted on 23 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 42 views · 4 comments · 2 likes

          Jealousy has long been viewed as an emotion that safeguards love. There are people who believe that the presence of jealousy in a relationship is an evidence of how much they care for someone, and how much they are cared for in return. However, this is also one of the primary factors why some relationships fail.

          While the jealous party may blame the other person for giving them a reason to feel suspicious, in reality it is more often a reflection of one’s personal issues. The tendency for a...

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          Jealousy has long been viewed as an emotion that safeguards love. There are people who believe that the presence of jealousy in a relationship is an evidence of how much they care for someone, and how much they are cared for in return. However, this is also one of the primary factors why some relationships fail.

          While the jealous party may blame the other person for giving them a reason to feel suspicious, in reality it is more often a reflection of one’s personal issues. The tendency for an individual to become jealous actually depends not only on the situation. It varies from person to person, with those who have a naturally insecure personality falling prey on it more frequently.

          Jealousy can manifest itself in several ways. Some of the classic reasons why people experience this crippling emotion are as follows:

          Fear of losing loved one

          Loving someone and being loved in return is such a heartwarming experience that perhaps nobody would be willing to lose or give it up easily. If the stability of the relationship is threatened in any way, jealous responses may arise. This is often propelled by the fear of losing the person that one cares for the most.

          Lack of trust

          Jealousy is basically an issue of trust. A loving relationship that is built on trust and openness is less likely to suffer from issues of jealousy, compared to a relationship in which the partners keep things from each other. However, lack of trust does not only result from infidelity and other behaviors that warrant doubt and suspicion. Sometimes, even though the other person is perfectly faithful, there are individuals who find it hard to give their trust completely.

          Unwillingness to share attention

          It feels good to be the apple of someone's eye. If there are signs that somebody else is commanding a beloved's attention - whether this is real or just imagined - anger and jealousy will ultimately arise.

          Desire to control loved one

          Love is generally a positive feeling but it can sometimes evolve into unhealthy responses if approached in a wrong way. In certain cases, there is a need to always have one's way in the relationship. Jealousy may be used as a means to control and make a partner conform to the individual's wants.

          Excessive feelings of jealousy may often interfere with a person's rational thinking. This compels some individuals to do things that could actually drive away the partner that they are desperately trying to keep. Although experts agree that this emotion is a natural survival mechanism that aims to preserve a relationship, jealousy is in fact a very destructive feeling. The only chance that this emotion may serve a constructive purpose is if the person suffering from it would recognize this as a sign to look within the self and work on their negative feelings.

          Although experts haven't reached a general consensus whether jealousy has a purpose in a loving relationship, the only certain thing is that its presence would always prove problematic if left uncontrolled and dominant. · close

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          • Signs Of Cheating

            Posted on 20 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 39 views · 3 comments · 1 likes

            Why cheat? Is it for the thrills of being a part of something illicit? Or is it in reality a cry for help and attention? There are many reasons why a partner cheats but according to an online survey, a majority of the people (both men and women respondents) said they cheated because of relationship problems.

            What are the signs that a partner is cheating?

            Suspicious Behavior

            A cheating partner will usually exhibit a strange or uncommon conduct. For instance, your spouse might have mood s...

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            Why cheat? Is it for the thrills of being a part of something illicit? Or is it in reality a cry for help and attention? There are many reasons why a partner cheats but according to an online survey, a majority of the people (both men and women respondents) said they cheated because of relationship problems.

            What are the signs that a partner is cheating?

            Suspicious Behavior

            A cheating partner will usually exhibit a strange or uncommon conduct. For instance, your spouse might have mood swings that you cannot attribute to anything specific, like their jobs or the problems in your family. He/she might suddenly get angry or defensive when talking about things that he/she considers too "personal" or "intrusive."
            According to a recent survey, the majority of cheating instances take place at work. If your partner suddenly works longer hours, is always on business meetings, or calls home that he/she will be late because of sudden changes in the work schedule, then he/she might be cheating on you.

            Lack of Intimacy

            One of the things that make a spouse suspect that the other is having an affair is the lack of intimacy. Your partner’s sexual interest or behavior changes until it seems that he/she is becoming a different person and you start to wonder whether you know them at all. Sexual intercourse, physical contact, and expressions of love and commitment also tend to become less frequent.

            Time and Money that is Unaccounted For

            Money and time, which cannot be accounted for, are usually red flags of cheating. A cheating partner may spend too much time on errands that usually do not take them a long time to accomplish, like going to the salon, getting the car washed, or going to the gym. You may also find receipts for purchases that you never see or big credit card bills that your spouse cannot explain.

            Positive Changes in Physical Appearance

            If your partner suddenly takes special pains to look and dress better, it might be because he/she is trying to impress someone. That someone could be you or another person. Women usually start wearing new clothes or lingerie, which are sexier than what they normally wear. Men are also inclined to buy new clothes and take extra care when it comes to grooming. A cheating partner can spend too much time looking at the mirror to check his/her reflection that it becomes noticeable.

            Strange Phone Calls and Messages

            A spouse who has something to hide, like an affair, will usually have his/her phone with him/her at all times. You might notice that he/she spends a huge amount of time having whispered conversations. Calls are made to and received from names or numbers that you do not recognize. If your partner takes his/her phone everywhere but does not answer when you call or the phone is always turned off when he/she is out with friends, there is a big chance that your partner is cheating on you.

            Unless you caught your partner in the act, these signs are all circumstantial. Listen to your intuition but give your spouse the chance to explain. After all, you could be wrong and that can jeopardize the trust that you have for each other. · close

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            • Pickup Lines

              Posted on 19 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 17 views · 1 comments · 0 likes

              A good opening line may win you a date while a bad one will just cause your target to look at you in disdain or worse, start laughing hysterically. If you see a stranger in a bar and you want to get to know them, you've got to approach them and say something witty that will make them like you and leave an indelible impression.

              In only a few seconds, you will decide your fate – whether or not you've met the love of your life, gotten a date, or end up going home alone. According to ...

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              A good opening line may win you a date while a bad one will just cause your target to look at you in disdain or worse, start laughing hysterically. If you see a stranger in a bar and you want to get to know them, you've got to approach them and say something witty that will make them like you and leave an indelible impression.

              In only a few seconds, you will decide your fate – whether or not you've met the love of your life, gotten a date, or end up going home alone. According to psychologists, people make up their mind about other people within seconds. This is why your opening line has got to make a good impression.

              Confidence
              Confidence is key. Even if you're delivering a cheesy line, if you accompany it with a wink or a self-deprecating look, you'll come off as funny or sexy, not corny. You'll want to make sure that you look cool when you approach your target. If you’re nervous and your palms are sweaty, don't let them see it. People can sense whether you're confident or not. You are most likely to succeed if you have confidence in yourself and your opening line.

              Most people think that good-looking men and women who are single never approach other people because they are accosted all the time. In some cases this might be true. But whatever we look like, most of us like talking to new people. A lot of us also lack the confidence or verbal skills to suddenly start chatting to people that we don’t know.

              Entertain
              Try to be entertaining. A good sense of humor is always appreciated. Humor always breaks up the ice. But don’t go all out. You'll find that a simple approach sometimes works better than all those fancy bells and whistles. Delivery is key. Some tried and tested opening lines actually work.

              Don't stress out
              This will undermine your confidence and impede your delivery. Being stressed out can also cause you to clam up. While drinking a lot of alcohol can cause you to loosen up and gain some confidence, it is not good to chat someone up when you've had a lot to drink.

              Don't be a jerk
              An offensive line will never work. But surprisingly, a simple request to buy someone a drink will elicit a response in about half the people that you meet. Many people prefer a simple and straightforward approach. Just come up to them confidently and state your best opening line. If you feel up to it, use some humor or crack a joke. Different lines will work with different people. You will either luck out or strike out.

              Ladies should definitely not leave it up to the men to approach them. If you see someone you like, smile at them and let them catch you looking at them. If they don’t approach you but you feel like they're interested, take the initiative and go up to them. Then hit them with your best opening line.
              After all, you have nothing to lose. · close

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              • How to Prevent Bad Relationships

                Posted on 14 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 26 views · 0 comments · 0 likes

                No one wants to be part of an unhealthy relationship. The bad news is that it happens - some good relationships go south, some people seem to move from one hurtful relationship to another.
                The good news is there are ways to avoid falling into the usual traps that burden, threaten and ultimately break relationships.

                Be on the guard
                Tread with caution. Look back on your previous relationships and what made them crumble. Make a conscious effort to learn from your past mistakes.

                Also watch o...

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                No one wants to be part of an unhealthy relationship. The bad news is that it happens - some good relationships go south, some people seem to move from one hurtful relationship to another.
                The good news is there are ways to avoid falling into the usual traps that burden, threaten and ultimately break relationships.

                Be on the guard
                Tread with caution. Look back on your previous relationships and what made them crumble. Make a conscious effort to learn from your past mistakes.

                Also watch out for red flags – any indication that something is not quite right. Be particularly wary of signs of abuse, violence or manipulation.

                Better yet, come up your own relationship deal breakers. Think of the traits or habits that, by your personal standards, are unacceptable in a partner. And when one of the non-negotiables on your list becomes apparent, take it as your cue to bow out of the relationship.

                Be your own person
                Do not lose yourself in a relationship. Some couples tend to think only in terms of "we" and forget "I". Relationships should be anchored on the idea of two persons working as a team. That means each individual member must have a voice, get a say in making decisions. Mutual respect needs to exist. So always assert yourself.

                Set-ups where one is submissive and the other domineering are bound to fail. Control often translates to abuse. And somebody will end up feeling powerless, dismissed or fearfully dependent.

                Talk it out
                Keep the lines of communication open. Converse constantly. Discuss even the smallest of issues, so you can nip them in the bud.

                If you can sense that something is eating into the relationship, share your sentiments with your partner. Letting him or her know how you feel could help pinpoint the problem.

                For serious troubles, it's best to have your talk when both parties are calm and receptive. Discussing matters when tempers are running high will do more damage than good.

                During the conversations, be honest, clear and open. Hear each other out and find a middle ground. You do not have to be on the same side. Agreeing to disagree is a form of compromise in itself.

                Enjoy the company
                Couples should be able to have a good time together, may it be fun and wild, or relaxing and comforting. If boredom seems to strike more often than normal or the chemistry is fading, this might be a sign that something is amiss. Find a way to identify and address the situation.

                Work it out
                Every relationship hits a snag. But not all survive.

                If your find yourselves in a rough patch, do not give up. If the relationship is worth saving, fight for it. Resolve your issues.

                But if the bad undoubtedly outweighs the good, then the relationship is unhealthy. There's no need to stick it out any longer.

                There are no hard-and-fast rules to avoiding bad relationships. But it always helps to be vigilant. Be on the lookout for any red flags. Make sure there is mutual respect and trust. Communicate regularly, clearly and honestly.
                Know when to let go and when course-correcting is an option. · close

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                • Is it Love or Obsession?

                  Posted on 13 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 45 views · 3 comments · 0 likes

                  So you've found someone and things are heating up. In fact, you're starting to worry that you might be getting too fixated on your paramour. You felt an instant attraction, rushed into a relationship, and now feel constantly anxious and jealous. Is what you feel love or obsession? Read on to find out the difference.

                  Like an addiction, an obsessive person can become instantly hooked on another person. They may latch onto another person as soon as they meet them. Once they've fou...

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                  So you've found someone and things are heating up. In fact, you're starting to worry that you might be getting too fixated on your paramour. You felt an instant attraction, rushed into a relationship, and now feel constantly anxious and jealous. Is what you feel love or obsession? Read on to find out the difference.

                  Like an addiction, an obsessive person can become instantly hooked on another person. They may latch onto another person as soon as they meet them. Once they've found their object of obsession, they will rush into the relationship, without stopping to think whether or not they are compatible with the other person. An obsessive person may simply fixate on the physical appearance of their chosen partner, without paying any attention to their personality. They may put that person up on a pedestal or endow them with godlike, unreal qualities. This is the phase during which obsessive, controlling behavior begins.

                  During the second phase of an obsession, a commitment has usually been agreed upon by the two people involved. But some obsessed people enter this phase even without a commitment. They lull themselves into an illusion of intimacy, regardless of what the other person feels.

                  The obsessed person will begin to have delusions that their partner is cheating, even though there is no factual basis for them to do so. They will begin to demand that their partners share their daily schedule with them. They will call constantly to check up on their partner. They will monitor their emails or suddenly show up at their partner's office. Obsessive people are afraid of abandonment. Again, this will not have any factual basis, but they will always be afraid that their partner will leave them for someone else.

                  By this point the relationship begins to become unhealthy. It will become the sole focus of the obsessed person. Fortunately, this is also the period where the object of the obsession will be alerted to their partner's obsession. They will feel controlled, thus causing them to draw back from the obsessed person. This will lead to the breakup of the relationship.

                  The obsessed person will have tunnel vision about their partner. They will not be able to stop thinking about them and they will devote all their attention to their partner. They will call their partner continually, wherever they happen to be. They will start driving by their partner’s home or office just to check up on them. They will barrage their partners with allegations of cheating. They may even try to implant a physical or electronic monitoring device on their partner, so that they can keep track of them at all times.

                  They will start to guilt trip their partner and to demand more of their attention.

                  During the final phase of an obsessive relationship, the obsessed partner will feel constantly depressed. They will also feel angry, and if their partner has broken up with them, they will be out to get revenge. They will blame themselves and also hate themselves. However, even if the relationship has ended, they will deny this. They may start using drugs, or indulging in alcohol, food or sex to make the pain go away.

                  If you are in a relationship and your partner has exhibited some of the above behavior, get out of the relationship as fast as you can. It's not love. It's obsession. · close

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                  • INSPIRATIONAL <3

                    Posted on 12 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 72 views · 8 comments · 2 likes

                    Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.

                    Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.

                    Nothing is predestined: The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.

                    Everyday is a gift, that’s why they call it the present.

                    Never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.

                    Inspiration and genius–one and the same.

                    The future depends...

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                    Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.

                    Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.

                    Nothing is predestined: The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.

                    Everyday is a gift, that’s why they call it the present.

                    Never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.

                    Inspiration and genius–one and the same.

                    The future depends on what we do in the present.

                    Put your future in good hands – your own.

                    If you only do what you know you can do – you never do very much.

                    Whatever you are be a good one.

                    Find something you love to do and you’ll never have to work a day in your life.

                    Misery is almost always the result of thinking.

                    The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.

                    The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

                    It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness.

                    There are three words I like to repeat to myself: glass half full. Just to remind myself to be grateful for everything I have.

                    Fall seven times, stand up eight.

                    I have enjoyed life a lot more by saying yes than by saying no.

                    Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude.

                    Don’t waste a minute not being happy. If one window closes, run to the next window — or break down a door.

                    Wherever you go, go with all your heart.

                    You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

                    Happiness is the best face lift.

                    Nobody ever drowned in his own sweat.

                    Think of the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                    If you spend your whole life waiting for the storm, you’ll never enjoy the sunshine.

                    Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.

                    I never need to see the sun again, there enough light in your eyes to light up all the world.

                    People can live one hundred years without really living a minute.

                    Live your life in the manner that you would like your kids to live theirs.

                    No Matter what you do there will be critics.

                    There is dignity in suffering; nobility in pain; but failure is a salted wound, that burns and burns again!

                    Seventy percent of success in life is showing up.

                    A society grows great when old men plant trees whose shade they know they shall never sit in.

                    Try and fail, but don’t fail to try.

                    Many say I am just one to try. I say I am one less to quit. · close

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                    • How to Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn't Love you

                      Posted on 10 December, 2011 (2 years ago) by stefyap · 79 views · 0 comments · 0 likes

                      The reason you still can’t stop loving that person although you know that you can’t have him is that your subconscious mind didn’t fully accept what happened.

                      Acceptance can only happen when the subconscious mind makes sure that the event is irreversible. Most people who want to stop loving someone prevent themselves from accepting the fact that they can’t have him by doing the following:

                      1-Visualizing the good old memories
                      2-Keeping all the things that reminds them of him (text m...

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                      The reason you still can’t stop loving that person although you know that you can’t have him is that your subconscious mind didn’t fully accept what happened.

                      Acceptance can only happen when the subconscious mind makes sure that the event is irreversible. Most people who want to stop loving someone prevent themselves from accepting the fact that they can’t have him by doing the following:

                      1-Visualizing the good old memories
                      2-Keeping all the things that reminds them of him (text messages, e-mails.. etc)
                      3-Never confront the person directly and so keep the door open for hope

                      All of these practices keep hope present and as a result prevent acceptance from happening. If you want to stop loving that person you should first accept what happened by confronting him and making sure that he has no intentions to resume the relationship. (see the article the anatomy of acceptance for more information on that topic)

                      The second thing you should do is deleting the mails, the text messages and removing everything that reminds you of him. Preventing yourself from thinking about him is another very important task, I know that sometimes thoughts flow involuntary, but at least you can prevent these involuntary thoughts from growing bigger. All of these actions will convince your subconscious mind that its over and so you will be able to stop loving him.
                      Is there anybody Better than Him?

                      One of the things that can prevent you from stopping to love someone is thinking that this person was the one.

                      If you think that way then ask yourself a question, is there anybody else on earth who is better than him? Even if you didn't find any then this doesn't mean that there isn't a better person that you didn't meet yet. Definitely he is the not the best person in the world else everyone would have loved him. (see Ways to get over a breakup fast

                      Instead of feeling sad or down promise yourself that you will find someone better than him. This will help you get rid of the false belief that he is the best person in the world and so it will help you stop loving him.

                      In my book, How to get over anyone in few days i pointed out that one of the main reasons people fail to recover fast from breakups is that they have beliefs such as "the one" and "the soul mate", as soon as they realize that such beliefs are false they recover ten times faster.
                      Subconscious Mind & Repetition

                      One of the most powerful ways to convince your subconscious mind to believe in something is repetition. The more you repeat the fact that the relationship is over the more this statement is likely to turn into a solid belief (see the psychology of convincing for more information on that topic).

                      If you want to stop loving someone then prevent yourself from repeating these phrases or from even thinking about them:

                      I can’t live without him
                      I can’t stop loving him
                      He is the only one I loved that much

                      2knowmyself is, without doubt, the best source for dealing with breakups on the whole internet. If you think that this is some kind of marketing hype then see the relationships & breakups directory and you will discover this fact yourself.The book How to make someone fall in love with you was released by 2knowmyself.com; the book will dramatically increase your chance of letting someone fall in love with you. · close

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