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The reason you still can’t stop loving that person although you know that you can’t have him is that your subconscious mind didn’t fully accept what happened.
Acceptance can only happen when the subconscious mind makes sure that the event is irreversible. Most people who want to stop loving someone prevent themselves from accepting the fact that they can’t have him by doing the following:
1-Visualizing the good old memories
2-Keeping all the things that reminds them of him (text m...
The reason you still can’t stop loving that person although you know that you can’t have him is that your subconscious mind didn’t fully accept what happened.
Acceptance can only happen when the subconscious mind makes sure that the event is irreversible. Most people who want to stop loving someone prevent themselves from accepting the fact that they can’t have him by doing the following:
1-Visualizing the good old memories
2-Keeping all the things that reminds them of him (text messages, e-mails.. etc)
3-Never confront the person directly and so keep the door open for hope
All of these practices keep hope present and as a result prevent acceptance from happening. If you want to stop loving that person you should first accept what happened by confronting him and making sure that he has no intentions to resume the relationship. (see the article the anatomy of acceptance for more information on that topic)
The second thing you should do is deleting the mails, the text messages and removing everything that reminds you of him. Preventing yourself from thinking about him is another very important task, I know that sometimes thoughts flow involuntary, but at least you can prevent these involuntary thoughts from growing bigger. All of these actions will convince your subconscious mind that its over and so you will be able to stop loving him.
Is there anybody Better than Him?
One of the things that can prevent you from stopping to love someone is thinking that this person was the one.
If you think that way then ask yourself a question, is there anybody else on earth who is better than him? Even if you didn't find any then this doesn't mean that there isn't a better person that you didn't meet yet. Definitely he is the not the best person in the world else everyone would have loved him. (see Ways to get over a breakup fast
Instead of feeling sad or down promise yourself that you will find someone better than him. This will help you get rid of the false belief that he is the best person in the world and so it will help you stop loving him.
In my book, How to get over anyone in few days i pointed out that one of the main reasons people fail to recover fast from breakups is that they have beliefs such as "the one" and "the soul mate", as soon as they realize that such beliefs are false they recover ten times faster.
Subconscious Mind & Repetition
One of the most powerful ways to convince your subconscious mind to believe in something is repetition. The more you repeat the fact that the relationship is over the more this statement is likely to turn into a solid belief (see the psychology of convincing for more information on that topic).
If you want to stop loving someone then prevent yourself from repeating these phrases or from even thinking about them:
I can’t live without him
I can’t stop loving him
He is the only one I loved that much
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ONE WAY TO COUNTER THE CHILLY WEATHER AND
restore one's dampened spirits is by indulging in
a bowl of hearty and delicious homemade soup.
Soup isn't just the perfect belly-warmer; moms all
over can attest that soup is a time-tested panacea
when one isn't feeling too well. Besides, haven't
we all, in one way or another, been treated to mom's
chicken noodle soup when we've been stuck in bed
due to the flu or fever then felt better shortly?
N...
Read more (36 words more)ONE WAY TO COUNTER THE CHILLY WEATHER AND
restore one's dampened spirits is by indulging in
a bowl of hearty and delicious homemade soup.
Soup isn't just the perfect belly-warmer; moms all
over can attest that soup is a time-tested panacea
when one isn't feeling too well. Besides, haven't
we all, in one way or another, been treated to mom's
chicken noodle soup when we've been stuck in bed
due to the flu or fever then felt better shortly?
Not only can soup improve moods soured by inclement
weather and illness, but it can also be pretty easy to make,
too-- if we know how to plan our menu according to what's
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When you close your eyes at the
end of each day, I wish you
contented and peaceful sleep.
When you are fearful or uncertain,
I wish for warmth and light
to surround you.
When you dream, I wish you
soaring images and
endless possibilities.
When you wake each morning,
I wish you the joy of anticipating
a beautiful day ahead.
When you face problems, I wish you
boundless strength and courage
to guide you.
When you walk along your path,
I wish you lasting friendships
to brighten your...
When you close your eyes at the
end of each day, I wish you
contented and peaceful sleep.
When you are fearful or uncertain,
I wish for warmth and light
to surround you.
When you dream, I wish you
soaring images and
endless possibilities.
When you wake each morning,
I wish you the joy of anticipating
a beautiful day ahead.
When you face problems, I wish you
boundless strength and courage
to guide you.
When you walk along your path,
I wish you lasting friendships
to brighten your way.
Most of all, I wish you love...
to fill your heart
and make your world complete. · close
Because God is near, there is nothing to fear.
He is the All-Sufficient One, the great Need-Meeter,
and His presence,
nothing can harm us or trouble us in any way.
God has been this comfort to all those who have
believed in Him, who put their faith in Him despite
their circumstances. These words of Julian of
Norwich, penned in medieval times, echo our own
confession today:
God, of Your goodness, give me Yourself; for You
are sufficient for me. I cannot properly ask anything
les...
Because God is near, there is nothing to fear.
He is the All-Sufficient One, the great Need-Meeter,
and His presence,
nothing can harm us or trouble us in any way.
God has been this comfort to all those who have
believed in Him, who put their faith in Him despite
their circumstances. These words of Julian of
Norwich, penned in medieval times, echo our own
confession today:
God, of Your goodness, give me Yourself; for You
are sufficient for me. I cannot properly ask anything
less, to be worthy of You. In You alone, I have everything
I need. In You is everything I know to be good.
In Your love, You clothe me, enfold, and embrace me;
that tender love completely surrounds me, never to leave
me. Amen.
Do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous
right and. · close
To know that nothing hurts the godly, is a matter of comfort; but to be assured that all things which fall out shall co-operate for their good, that their crosses shall be turned into blessings, that showers of affliction water the withering root of their grace and make it flourish more; this may fill their hearts with joy till they run over.
God takes away the world, that the heart may cleave more to Him in sincerity.
God sweetens outward pain with inward peace.
Not to be afflicted is ...
Read more (249 words more)To know that nothing hurts the godly, is a matter of comfort; but to be assured that all things which fall out shall co-operate for their good, that their crosses shall be turned into blessings, that showers of affliction water the withering root of their grace and make it flourish more; this may fill their hearts with joy till they run over.
God takes away the world, that the heart may cleave more to Him in sincerity.
God sweetens outward pain with inward peace.
Not to be afflicted is a sign of weakness; for, therefore God imposeth no more on me, because he sees I can bear no more.
When we grow careless of keeping our souls, then God recovers our taste of good things again by sharp crosses.
The winter prepares the earth for the spring, so do afflictions sanctified prepare the soul for glory.
Do not even such things as are most bitter to the flesh, tend to awaken Christians to faith and prayer, to a sight of the emptiness of this world, and the fadingness of the best it yield? Doth not God by these things (ofttimes) call our sins to remembrance, and provoke us to amendment of life? How then can we be offended at things by which we reap so much good?.... Therefore if mine enemy hunger, let me feed him; if he thirst, let me give him drink. Now in order to do this, (1) We must see good in that, in which other men can see none. (2) We must pass by those injuries that other men would revenge. (3) We must show we have grace, and that we are made to bear what other men are not acquainted with. (4) Many of our graces are kept alive, by those very things that are the death of other men's souls.... The devil, (they say) is good when he is pleased; but Christ and His saints, when displeased.
As the wicked are hurt by the best things, so the godly are bettered by the worst.
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Dear Heavenly Father,
I thank You that You have poured out Your Spirit upon my life, and that one of the effects of Your love is peace. I claim righteousness, peace, and joy to fill my life as the fruit of my relationship with You.
As I wait on You, Lord, I pray that You will be my strength and defense and fulfill Your World in every area of my life. I know that where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is peace.
Thank You for Your love and for the peace that passes all understanding....
Read more (6 words more)Dear Heavenly Father,
I thank You that You have poured out Your Spirit upon my life, and that one of the effects of Your love is peace. I claim righteousness, peace, and joy to fill my life as the fruit of my relationship with You.
As I wait on You, Lord, I pray that You will be my strength and defense and fulfill Your World in every area of my life. I know that where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is peace.
Thank You for Your love and for the peace that passes all understanding.
In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
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"It is never too late to be what you might have been."
"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
"Nothing is impossible, the word itself says "I'm possible"!"
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
"Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom."
"Y...
Read more (232 words more)"It is never too late to be what you might have been."
"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
"Nothing is impossible, the word itself says "I'm possible"!"
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
"Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom."
"Your time is limited, don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinion drowned your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."
"Always do what you are afraid to do."
"We've all heard that we have to learn from our mistakes, but I think it's more important to learn from successes. If you learn only from your mistakes, you are inclined to learn only errors."
"It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit."
"Striving for success without hard work is like trying to harvest where you haven't planted"
"Change your thoughts and you change your world."
"A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him."
"There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure."
"The majority see the obstacles; the few see the objectives; history records the successes of the latter, while oblivion is the reward of the former." · close
Humor is the instinct for taking pain playfully.
Comedy is simply a funny way of being serious.
Humor is mankind's greatest blessing.
Humor is reason gone mad.
One doesn't have a sense of humor.
It has you.
I think the next best thing to solving a problem is finding some humor in it.
A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs.
It's jolted by every pebble on the road.
If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.
The more I ...
Humor is the instinct for taking pain playfully.
Comedy is simply a funny way of being serious.
Humor is mankind's greatest blessing.
Humor is reason gone mad.
One doesn't have a sense of humor.
It has you.
I think the next best thing to solving a problem is finding some humor in it.
A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs.
It's jolted by every pebble on the road.
If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.
The more I live, the more I think that humor is the saving sense.
A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life.
This I conceive to be the chemical function of humor: to change the character of our thought.
Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds.
A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.Comedy has to be based on truth. You take the truth and you put a little curlicue at the end.Humor brings insight and tolerance.
Irony brings a deeper and less friendly understanding.Humor is merely tragedy standing on its head with its pants torn.reat men are rarely isolated mountain peaks; they are the summits of ranges.umor distorts nothing, and only false gods are laughed off their earthly pedestals.
A sense of humor... is needed armor. Joy in one's heart and some laughter on one's lips is a sign that the person down deep has a pretty good grasp of life.
Humor is something that thrives between man's aspirations and his limitations.
There is more logic in humor than in anything else.
Because, you see, humor is truth.Imagination was given to man to compensate him for what he is not; a sense of humor to console him for what he is. · close
There are so many choices
in the world today
about where to live, what to do,
and whom to spend your time with.
But if you remember this one
simple truth,
you'll be able to make the decisions
that are right for you....
Never forget that you're the one
in control of your life.
Decide on the values that are
most important to you,
and live by them
ALWAYS.
I know life can be discouraging at times,
so I am giving you this. I want you to read it
every time you feel overwhelmed, so that it
may encourage you to move forward and
look beyond your troubles.
If ever you feel like giving up, DON'T. If
you think you can't do something, TRY. If
you try and fail, then try again. If you
don't, you may always wonder why you
gave up so easily.
Don't let life pass you by; the only way
to get ahead is to hold your head up high....
I know life can be discouraging at times,
so I am giving you this. I want you to read it
every time you feel overwhelmed, so that it
may encourage you to move forward and
look beyond your troubles.
If ever you feel like giving up, DON'T. If
you think you can't do something, TRY. If
you try and fail, then try again. If you
don't, you may always wonder why you
gave up so easily.
Don't let life pass you by; the only way
to get ahead is to hold your head up high.
Try not to be discouraged when things get
in your way; just climb each mountain
inch by inch, and take life day by day.
Eventually you will find the strength you
had to seek, not only to scale that
mountain but to reach its mighty peak.
Believe in whatever you think is worth
believing in, and never stop until you feel
you have done all that you can to secure
your dreams. I have such faith in you, and
I know that you are capable of achieving
anything you want. Always remember that. · close
